Red Tin Heart..

Sunday, February 3, 2008

My John died tonight at 12:30 a.m.
I can't believe this as I write it. It seems like a bad dream I am about to wake up from. The doctor said it was more than a cold. He also suffered from an infection that he got when he was operated on. He had it in his bone and it had spread.
I am in shock.
We had talked on the phone several times yesterday and he was not feeling well, and neither was I. But now he is gone.
And I have lost my best friend...
No matter what trials we suffered through, and some were bad. I loved him with my whole heart.
I was with him when he passed. He had went into a coma after being taken to the hospital and he came out of it a few minutes before I walked in. He was waiting on me... I took his hand and told him I loved him, he nodded like I love you too and squeezed my hand. Elizabeth took his other hand and told him she loved him. And A few hours later he was gone.
Please pray for Elizabeth and my sons and me. We are devastated.
~Nita~

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cupcake studio said...: My heart and prayers go out to you & your family. So sad to read this news this morning...God IS with you.; February 3, 2008 at 4:05 AM
No one is you ...& that's your power said...: Hi Nita,
I am so so sorry you have lost john. I am thinking of you and your family and send you all my love & thoughts.
You are a beautifull kind person and I am sorry for your loss.
X Dominique; February 3, 2008 at 4:53 AM
Anonymous said...: This is the first time I visited your site (from a link)- and I just read your heartbreaking story.

I am so sorry for your loss of John. You are in my prayers. Please take care of yourself.

Caring wishes, Darlene; February 3, 2008 at 4:57 AM
Fiona said...: Nita, I wish I could be there to give you a hug and to say in person how sad I am to hear this sad news. My thoughts will be with you and Elizabeth especially during this time.; February 3, 2008 at 5:20 AM
Donna said...: OhMyWord Dear Sweet Nita...what a shock this is...sending all my love and prayers to you and the Babies...; February 3, 2008 at 6:29 AM
Robin said...: Dear Nita,
I'm so shMocked by this news. My heart is aching for your family. There really are no words...please know I'm praying for you.; February 3, 2008 at 6:42 AM
Crystal said...: My thoughts and prayers are with you, I jumped over from Donna's blog. Wishing you and your family lots of love in this sad time.; February 3, 2008 at 7:10 AM
Susan @ Blackberry Creek said...: May God bless and comfort you and your family, Nita. I am so sorry that John has gone from your life. But think of him now, no longer sick, no longer limited by his effects of his accident. Please, please let me know if there's anything I can do. I wish I were there.; February 3, 2008 at 7:40 AM
The Feathered Nest said...: Dear Nita. I'm so, so very sorry. My heart hurts for you. I'm praying for you and your family right now. I pray for love and peace to surround you. Please know we love you...xxoo, Dawn; February 3, 2008 at 7:56 AM
Anonymous said...: My heart goes out to you this morning. Prayers are being sent up for His comforting grace in this time.; February 3, 2008 at 8:22 AM
Misty DawnS said...: You and your family will be in my heart, my thoughts, and my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.; February 3, 2008 at 8:30 AM
Laura said...: Nita, dearest Nita...I am so sorry. I know there is nothing I can say that could possibly even begin to ease your pain...so just know that I hold you and your whole family in my thoughts. Much Love, Laura; February 3, 2008 at 8:37 AM
Anonymous said...: I'm so sorry - what a devastating thing for you and the kids to deal with. My heart goes out to you , and I'll pray for strength for you.; February 3, 2008 at 8:38 AM
Prairie Gothic said...: Nita, I am so sorry to hear this, you will be surrounded by thoughts of love and peace.; February 3, 2008 at 8:52 AM
Lilli & Nevada said...: Nita,
First time to your site, also got it from another link.
I just wanted to stop by and say how very sorry i am for you and your family for your loss. Definite prayers for you all.; February 3, 2008 at 8:53 AM
Anonymous said...: Oh Nita, my heart just sank when I heard. Yesterday, I was staightening up and found John's address from the hospital when he was first admitted and put it aside reminding me to send another card. I am just so sorry to hear you have lost him. May you and Elizabeth find stregnth in each other. What a gift you both gave John, to be with him as he begins another journey. My love to you all.
Donna; February 3, 2008 at 9:15 AM
Lady Em said...: I'm so sorry. My family and I send our thoughts, prayers, and love. Remember that God is with you always, especially in this time of need.
~Emily~
The Lavender Beekeeper; February 3, 2008 at 9:23 AM
KE said...: I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Kimberlee; February 3, 2008 at 9:31 AM
Anonymous said...: Oh Nita and Elizabeth - I......... Every month I sit down and write John. I always get so bent out of shape that I don't have your address too. my email is cylithria (at) gmail (dot) com

Please email me your addy or just to vent okay? My heart is with you all, I have no words to ease your pain but please know, I hurt for and with you.

All of my live
Cyli Dubois; February 3, 2008 at 9:41 AM
Anonymous said...: Nita,
You don't know me but I happened upon your blog linked through another. I want you to know that you and your family are in my hearts and prayers. May God grant you "peace that truly passes all understanding". He has promised that he will never leave us, hold fast to that and know that you shall see your 'best friend' one day again.
Praying for you,
Debbie
(in B.C. Canada); February 3, 2008 at 9:42 AM
Rachael Elisabeth-Cahours Acklin said...: a friend sent me over here. i am so sorry for your loss, and i am so sorry for the horribly sudden way this has happened to you and your children.

my thoughts and prayers are with you, and i too am sending you strength and love.; February 3, 2008 at 9:44 AM
Anonymous said...: I am so sorry this devastation has come to you and your family. Sending strength and wishes for peace your way.; February 3, 2008 at 10:16 AM
Susie Q said...: I will be a new name to you but please know I am heartbroken for you.
You and your family will be in my prayers and heart and thoughts.
Nita, may love and peace surround you and may you know how many people's lives you have touched.

God Bless.

Hugs,
Sue; February 3, 2008 at 10:17 AM
Unknown said...: Nita,
I learned from Donna about your loss and am shocked, speechless and broken hearted. My tears are with you. I am sure you are absolutely numb. (((hugs))); February 3, 2008 at 10:31 AM
Trixie Twatwaffle said...: I found your site through a link somehwere.

May God place His hands on you and your family and help you through this time.; February 3, 2008 at 10:34 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita and family,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my heart and prayers, sweet one. May God hold you close and surround you with peace and comfort. You are loved.; February 3, 2008 at 10:57 AM
Shannon said...: My heart goes out to you and your family.; February 3, 2008 at 11:11 AM
Dena said...: Dear Nita,

Oh my dear friend I am so so sorry. I wish I could be there to wrap my arms around you.

My prayers are with you.

Much love,
Dena; February 3, 2008 at 11:12 AM
Alicia said...: There are no words at this time. Only sighs and tears.

Blessings to you.

(visiting from Laura's blog); February 3, 2008 at 11:28 AM
Margaret said...: My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your famiily. My dad passed away from a long illness several years ago and it was such a painful blow for our family, despite knowing that he'd been near death for some time. People often seem to think that losing someone after a long illness makes it hurt less, but it's absolutely untrue.

You have lost your best friend and your children have lost their father. The only thing I can say is that having family to share the pain with is a huge support. Hang on to each other tightly! God bless you and give you comfort in your loss.
~Margaret; February 3, 2008 at 12:20 PM
Rach said...: Hi Nita. I've come from Laura's blog. I just wanted to let you know how deeply sorry I am for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Many hugs for you all.

Rachael; February 3, 2008 at 12:27 PM
Laurie in Ca. said...: Dear Nita,

I am shocked to come here and read the news of losing your best friend. My heart aches for you right now, and the loss of your future together, unimaginable, just tragic. I am so sorry and will be praying for all of you and for your hearts to be able to bear this. May God give you His strength and peace that passes all understanding at this moment.

Love and Hugs,
Laurie in Ca.; February 3, 2008 at 12:31 PM
Sandy said...: My heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family.
Lifting you to the Father,
Miss Sandy; February 3, 2008 at 12:39 PM
kathy said...: So very sorry , will pray for you and your family , Kathy - Ga; February 3, 2008 at 1:02 PM
Anonymous said...: Oh Nita! I'm so sorry. I can't believe it either. How I wish I could give you a hug. Honey, I'll be praying for comfort and peace for all of you.; February 3, 2008 at 1:53 PM
Vee said...: Dawn from The Feathered Nest is the reason I am here. You and your family are very much in my prayers today and through this grieving season. What a long road you've been on...; February 3, 2008 at 1:54 PM
Victorian Lady said...: I'm so sorry...I don't know what else to say...it's so sad and I'll be thinking of you today.
{{Hugs}}
Mere; February 3, 2008 at 1:54 PM
~Becca~Bluebird Rose said...: Dear Nita, I don't know you, but I too have lost a husband, and my heart goes out to you in your sorrow.
I know how your heart feels broken......
I'm so very sorry.
Becca; February 3, 2008 at 2:00 PM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita,

I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will be praying for you. If only I could be there.

Kate xxx; February 3, 2008 at 2:03 PM
artemisia said...: I am thinking and praying for you and your family.; February 3, 2008 at 2:06 PM
Blondie ~ Vintage Primitives said...: Nita,
I am shocked, saddened and praying for you and yours.
Arms around you, holding you tight
Blondie; February 3, 2008 at 2:13 PM
Sally said...: I'm so sorry, and will keep you all in my prayers. (HUGS); February 3, 2008 at 2:19 PM
Judy said...: Dear Nita: I come to you through A Feathered Nest...no words can express your loss. Just know that a lot of folks will lift up you and Elizabeth and pray that God will give you strength to see you through the next days and weeks to come. God Bless you and your family.
Judy; February 3, 2008 at 2:23 PM
Stella said...: Dear Nita,

I have been reading your blog for a few months, I found you through Laura. I identified with your writings because my late husband was a paraplegic and wheelchair bound.

I am so sorry for your loss of John. You and your children will be in my prayers.

Love,
Stella; February 3, 2008 at 2:39 PM
roseroomnz.com said...: God bless your John and may god give you and your children strength to carry on through this devastating time. Rachael; February 3, 2008 at 2:44 PM
Dawn said...: I am so very sorry...; February 3, 2008 at 3:02 PM
Rosie's Whimsy said...: I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how devastated you are right now. God will help you be strong and that is what i pray for you and your family. God's comfort I pray for you......Rosie; February 3, 2008 at 3:07 PM
Linda said...: First time here and am so sorry to hear of the sad news. Know that prayers are coming your way from WV for God to comfort you and your children.; February 3, 2008 at 3:23 PM
Anonymous said...: Nita, I am so sorry to hear about your families loss! Take care and please spend some time with your family with such hard times!; February 3, 2008 at 3:38 PM
Unknown said...: Oh Nita, my heart hurts for you. I am so so sorry. You and Elizabeth will be in my prayers. Big hugs!!!!!
Jill; February 3, 2008 at 3:58 PM
Anonymous said...: My sincere condolances on this terrible time for you. My thoughts are with you all.; February 3, 2008 at 4:13 PM
Anonymous said...: "No words can express how incredibly sad I am." When one member of the body of Christ suffers, "We all suffer!" I am so heartbroken for you and will cry out to our Heavenly Father for you and pray you will feel his love and angels about you and your children.

"You are loved, and loved and completely thought of my friend!!"

"HUGS TO YOU,
LOVE," JEANNENE; February 3, 2008 at 4:20 PM
pchickki said...: Nita
I am so shocked ! I wish I could put my arms around you and Elizabeth and hold you close. My tears are flowing right now. I will pray for you to keep strong during this very hard time in your life.
John is in a better place now with the Lord.
All my love and sympathy
Your Friend
Patti; February 3, 2008 at 4:42 PM
BriteCloud said...: Oh Dear Nita!

I have followed your and John's struggle since his accident. I sent him a card awhile back.

I cannot tell you how beart broken I feel for you and your family. And for John. I am so shocked as I thought he would be home with you in a few months.

I wish I could convey the depth of sadness and love I am feeling for you and your family. I have been sobbing for you.

You will all be in my prayers, and please keep us informed as the days go by.

Love,
Rhonda; February 3, 2008 at 4:44 PM
Bad Indian said...: Oh Nita...I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers for many days to come. Know that the Great Spirit will always be with you.; February 3, 2008 at 4:45 PM
Cathy ~ Tadpoles and Teacups said...: My deepest sympathy.

Praying~
Cathy; February 3, 2008 at 5:02 PM
LW said...: Dear Nita,
I am so sorry, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very sad time...

Louise; February 3, 2008 at 5:34 PM
Carol Bennett said...: You don't know me, I found your blog thru the feathered nest,but my heart goes out to you and I lift you and your family up to God. May HE wrap his arms around you and yours during this sad time.
Carol
http://ourreddoor.blogspot.com; February 3, 2008 at 5:41 PM
Kim said...: I am so sorry for your and Elizabeth's loss. Nothing I say or do can change what has occured, but I am praying that God touches you and Elizabeth and holds you both in His hands. I haven't met you, but feel I know you a bit, I love your blog, and your art. Nita, you are in my heart and my prayers. Kim; February 3, 2008 at 6:20 PM
Louise said...: I am so sorry.; February 3, 2008 at 6:23 PM
Anonymous said...: Please accept my condolences for you and your family. May your heart be blessed with peace.

Terri B; February 3, 2008 at 6:27 PM
Simply Shelley said...: My Dear ,Dear Nita, I am so very sorry. Bless your sweet heart! I so wish I could give you a big hug and let you know how much my heart goes out to you and your family at this time. I pray God's Holy Spirit will give you much strength and comfort.
May God be with you, Shelley; February 3, 2008 at 7:03 PM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita & family:

I am deeply saddened to hear of John's passing.

May the Good Lord cradle you in the palms of His hands and carry through the rough days ahead.

Deepest sympathy,
Kathy

THE TIDE

The tide recedes yet leaves behind
bright seashells in the sand,

The sun goes down yet gentle warmth still lingers on the land,

The music stops yet echos on in sweet refrains,

For every joy that passes, somehting beautiful remains.

~~Author Unknown; February 3, 2008 at 7:31 PM
Cindy said...: Oh Nita, I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart is also breaking for your family. I understand all too well, as we lost my Mom just a few weeks ago. Dear girl, do take care. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

cindy; February 3, 2008 at 7:48 PM
vikki said...: my prayers and heartfelt sympathy goes to you and your family. even tho they are not here in body, they will always be in your heart. and someday you will see your loved one again. blessings, vikki; February 3, 2008 at 8:41 PM
han_ysic said...: Praying for peace in this time of great sadness. That God will supply all your needs and be with you as you mourn your best friend and lover.

Hannah; February 3, 2008 at 8:43 PM
Anonymous said...: Nita... Im so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your children. As God took John into HIs loving arms, those same arms will continue to hold you. May His Peace surround your family and lift you up.; February 3, 2008 at 8:53 PM
Linda Jo said...: I'm so sorry. I have visited your blog a few times and I know my friend Nathalie is close to you. I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.; February 3, 2008 at 8:55 PM
Anonymous said...: First time to your blog tonight.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs for you and your family at this difficult time.
Tracy oxxo; February 3, 2008 at 9:44 PM
Lynne's Somewhat Invented Life said...: I came here from The Feathered Nest.

I am so sorry. I am praying for you and your family. Even though I don't know you I am grieving for you. Please know that my caring for you is real, that I wish I could bring a hot meal to you and let you cry on my shoulder.

Lynne; February 3, 2008 at 10:00 PM
suzi blu said...: Nita,
I am so very sorry. I'm always here if you need to talk.

-sue; February 3, 2008 at 10:02 PM
Robbie said...: I came here from Our Red House - so sorry to hear of your loss. May your faith comfort you and your children at this time of grief. I will be thinking of you. Take care; February 3, 2008 at 10:08 PM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita, You and your family are in my thougths and prayers as you go through this great loss. What a blessing that you were there with John at the time - a comfort for him and for you too. Jane; February 3, 2008 at 10:26 PM
Lori Garbarino said...: Oh My Dear Nita! I am so sorry to hear about John You and your wonderful family are in my prayers tonight. The Bible says that "to be absent from our bodies is to be present with the Lord" I pray you hold that as truth to your heart.

With much Love and Prayers

xoxo Lori Garbarino; February 3, 2008 at 11:40 PM
Angela said...: My heart just aches reading of your husband's passing. I am praying for comfort, peace and strength for you and your family. Please know you are in so many people's prayers!; February 3, 2008 at 11:42 PM
PEA said...: My heart goes out to you and your family. May God's Grace heal your hearts.
Blessings,Pea; February 4, 2008 at 12:48 AM
The Tin House said...: hugs from far away to the whole family. Lisa x; February 4, 2008 at 2:30 AM
Anonymous said...: So, so sorry.....no words......
Lifting you up in prayer~; February 4, 2008 at 3:45 AM
Lee Weber said...: Oh Nita- I am crying for you and your family. I am so sorry about John. But I am glad you had those last precious moments together. Lots of love- Lee; February 4, 2008 at 5:33 AM
Anonymous said...: One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.

He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:

"LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when
I needed you most you would leave me."

The LORD replied:

"My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

My thoughts are with you and yours Nita at this time of loss; February 4, 2008 at 5:37 AM
Cheryl said...: Dear Nita,

I am here from Shelley's blog. This is so sad. I said a little prayer for you today. May you find comfort in God's unfailing love.

Take care.
Cheryl; February 4, 2008 at 5:46 AM
Anonymous said...: I am so sorry, Nita! I have been reading for a few weeks now...this is such a shock! I will be praying for you and your children b/c I can only imagine how painful that loss feels, but I KNOW that the Lord will comfort you and provide everything that you need...I hope this doesnt' sound trite b/c I truly believe this and I know you do too...He alone is sufficient to carry your grief...lean on Him!; February 4, 2008 at 5:57 AM
Nancy said...: Hello Nita,

I am so sorry to read you have lost your husband and friend. I can't even imagine the emptiness you must be feeling now, but I hope the memories of your love will overtake this feeling soon. I wish easy times ahead for you and your children.; February 4, 2008 at 6:03 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita & Elizabeth:

Thinking of and praying for you all today. You've had an incredible journey since John's accident -- one you've traveled with grace and dignity but, most especially, an abiding faith in God.

I haven't checked your blog since I asked you what John liked to read. In that picture you posted of him he looked so healthy. What a terrible shock this must be.

I am pretty much housebound so I didn't get out to purchase the book until Saturday. I know he liked nature books so I bought one about Newfoundland and our moose population. I feel badly that John will never get to read it.

May your deep faith bring you peace and your memories comfort you.

Can you please let us know of John's funeral arrangements and, if you are comfortable in doing so, could you post an address where we can send cards/donations.

You are a woman with such a beautiful heart and I am so very sorry it is hurting so badly.

You & your beautiful Elizabeth will help each other in the coming days. Lean on our Heavenly Father and draw comfort from His promise of Eternal Life.

I wish I could drop by with some big, warm hugs.

Peace, blessings & prayers to you.

Love
Kathy (Newfoundland); February 4, 2008 at 6:23 AM
Betts4 said...: Nita,
I am sorry you lost your best friend and love. So sorry. I also lost my husband suddenly, just 8 months of hell ago.

Please know just one thing, as alone as you feel among all those out there wiht their loved ones, you are not alone and there are many that understand the hurt and the hole in your chest and the sadness and nightmare you are feeling.

Writing it out in my blog has helped, I hope it will help you also.

Sending hugs and thoughts to you.; February 4, 2008 at 6:50 AM
Anonymous said...: Nita,

I was sent here by Laura. I don't know what to write. I'm new to your blog and was so saddened to hear about John but also was so very uplifted by your blog.

Reading your story has touched me in so many ways when I need it the most...now. Your beauty, strength and love just poured out of these pages and I was able to finally feel a little glimmer of hope.

But yet I am so saddened by your loss. My prayers will be with you and your family. Thank God you have your faith to get you through this. John is a butterfly now...flying in the air to more happiness than he's ever known.; February 4, 2008 at 7:09 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita,
My heart is sad hearing of the loss of your precious John. My prayer for you today comes from Psalm 91..."He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you will find refuge; His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."
May the Lord hold you, comfort you and sustain you during this very difficult time. He sees your tears and knows the hurt in your heart. May His peace which is beyond understanding surround you and yours today.
Blessings and prayers,
~Jan - sharingencouragement; February 4, 2008 at 7:26 AM
Sweet Cottage Dreams said...: Dear Nita ~ I am so terribly sad for you and tears welled in my when reading your post. I don't even know you, but I cannot imagine the pain in your and your childrens' hearts right now. Our prayers are with you for God to give you strength.

hugs,
Becky and family; February 4, 2008 at 8:29 AM
Jeanette said...: I am so very sorry. God give you strength in this time of need.; February 4, 2008 at 8:53 AM
Anonymous said...: My thoughts and prayers are for you, Elizabeth and your family.
God bless you and comfort you all during this time.
With deep sympathy.; February 4, 2008 at 8:57 AM
Jessica said...: Nita,

I just came across your blog through Dawn's and saw your heartbreaking post. I'm so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you.; February 4, 2008 at 8:58 AM
Rosie said...: This is my first visit here Nita and I am so very sorry to hear of your sad loss of John. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

Rosie x; February 4, 2008 at 9:03 AM
Lorrie said...: Dear Nita,
I'm so sorry. May the God of all comfort fill you with his love and presence. May you sense the strong arms of our God wrapped around you today and in the days to come.
Lorrie; February 4, 2008 at 10:42 AM
Karen H. said...: Good Afternoon Nita,
I am here by way of Shelley's blog. I am coming to let you know that you and your Family are in my prayers. I know this is such a difficult time for you right now, but just know that GOD is there with you for you to lean on. HE will be your Strength. Take care my friend and may GOD be with each one of you during this difficult time.

Hugs,
Karen H.; February 4, 2008 at 10:43 AM
Rebecca said...: Oh Nita, I know we don't know each other at all (I heard of your loss at Thrifty Miss Priss) please except my prayers for you and your family. BIG HUGS my dear . . .; February 4, 2008 at 11:04 AM
Shelli said...: Nita, PixieDust sent me over, and I'm sorry I found you under such conditions because I looked at your blog, and you seem like a person I'd like to know. My prayers are with you and your family. I'm so so sorry.; February 4, 2008 at 11:54 AM
Shara said...: You don't know me, but I have read your blog everyday and kept up with John. He looked like such an absolutely sweet man at heart. My heart aches for you, even though we are srangers. My birthday is the day of John's accident. I will alwyas say a payer for him on that day. Bless your heart.; February 4, 2008 at 12:10 PM
Barb said...: I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.; February 4, 2008 at 12:18 PM
Vanessa said...: my deepest sympathy, nita.
i'm thinking of you and your family and sending love across the ocean to you.
Vx
(found you through pixiedust); February 4, 2008 at 12:42 PM
The Queen Vee said...: I do not know you, but I was saddened and so sorry to read of your families great loss of a beloved husband and father.

May God hold you and your children in the palm of his hand and grant you peace and comfort at this time.

I truly believe that families are eternal and that you will see your John again. Peace be with you

Victoria Carlson; February 4, 2008 at 2:05 PM
pERiWinKle said...: Nita...I embrace you in such a big hug...that you can feel all the love pouring in...am around you...touching your shoulder...passing a tissue...a hug...some tea....something to eat...a knowing smile...touching your hair...just being there with you...especially now..and tonight when you go to bed....your not alone...we are all with you...in your bed...cuddling around you to comfort you...xx; February 4, 2008 at 2:26 PM
couragetocreatewriteandlove said...: I am with you Dear friend holding your hand. Praying for everything I can possible think you want from me. Stay strong and cry, too.
I love you!; February 4, 2008 at 2:33 PM
Maija said...: OMG, Nita! I am sitting here, stunned and bawling, from the shock of John's death! My heart is just aching for you. I tried looking up your phone number in the national white pages, but I can't remember what state you live in! I am so sorry for you unimaginable loss. I am holding you so close in my heart and prayers!; February 4, 2008 at 3:39 PM
Ginger~~Enchanting Cottage said...: I am so sorry about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Blessings
Ginger; February 4, 2008 at 3:48 PM
Fete et Fleur said...: Nita! I am praying for you and your children. May you be comforted and feel Him holding you close.

Blessings to you!
Nancy; February 4, 2008 at 4:41 PM
baringapark said...: Nita

You are so brave and have been through so much. Know that you are in my thoughts and that your faith will help you through this difficult time.; February 4, 2008 at 5:17 PM
Anonymous said...: I am sorry to hear your news. Please know that your blog family is praying for you and yours.; February 4, 2008 at 5:18 PM
Jennifer said...: My heart breaks for you. May God give you much comfort and bless you and your family.
Hugs, Jen; February 4, 2008 at 5:19 PM
daisies said...: i am so sorry for your loss. much care. xo; February 4, 2008 at 6:17 PM
Sandra Evertson said...: Hello Nita,

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Love,
Sandra Evertson; February 4, 2008 at 6:25 PM
SweetAnnee said...: NITA
I am CRYING for you..God is there..you and your daughter!!!!! reach for Him..I am at a LOSS for words, other than I care!!!!!!!!!!
lovingly, Deena; February 4, 2008 at 6:55 PM
Mara said...: Dear Nita,
I came over from another link/blog (Deena's)and just want to say how sorry I am for your loss. You will be in my prayers.
God Bless and Keep you,
Maridon; February 4, 2008 at 7:23 PM
Denise said...: I was over visiting Deena...... I am so sorry for your loss..... I will pray for you and your family...

Denise; February 4, 2008 at 7:26 PM
Rose of Sharon said...: I just said a prayer and I will keep praying. My heart goes out to you and your family. May God give you a peace that surpasses understanding. I pray that you will be surrounded by loving people who encourage you.

I am sure your husband was a beautiful person and will be greatly missed by many.

With a sincere hug, Sharon; February 4, 2008 at 7:34 PM
kimberly said...: have you in my thoughts and prayers.
i am so sorry
kimberly; February 4, 2008 at 7:42 PM
Erin said...: I am heartbroken to hear of John's passing. You, your children, and your family are in my prayers. Thinking of you... Erin; February 4, 2008 at 8:35 PM
Trée said...: Thoughts and prayers.; February 4, 2008 at 8:53 PM
Lori @ Katies Rose Cottage Designs said...: Nita ~ I just found your blog from Deena's ~ I am so so sorry for the loss of your husband ~ I am at a loss for the words to say but I will pray for you ~; February 4, 2008 at 8:53 PM
Anita Minocchi-Fluke said...: Nita, this is my first time to your sight, as a friend suggested I stop by. I so very sorry about your loss, especially since he was also your best friend. You & your family are in my thoughts.; February 4, 2008 at 8:54 PM
the glitzy gypsy said...: love and light to you and your family..........
brenda bliss; February 4, 2008 at 9:18 PM
Miss Jean said...: Nita: I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say to help. Just know that there are thousands of people all over the world holding up your family in prayer.; February 4, 2008 at 9:29 PM
Anonymous said...: sending you and your family prayers of comfort and peace.
take care of yourselves.
Mija; February 4, 2008 at 10:21 PM
Jan Parrish said...: I pray that God will comfort you as He holds you in the palm of His hand.

I realize that words are meaningless at a time like this, so I'll pray for you and your family.; February 4, 2008 at 10:43 PM
Mary said...: Nita,

My sincere condolences in the loss of your husband and your children's father. He is in heaven with Jesus now. I will be praying for you and your family as you go throught this very difficult time in your lives. May God give you all the strength to endure.

Blessings,
Mary; February 4, 2008 at 10:59 PM
BittersweetPunkin said...: I am so so sorry for your loss. I know nothing that any of us write here can take your pain away. I will include you in my prayers.
Blessings,
Robin; February 4, 2008 at 11:48 PM
Kathy said...: Dear Nita,
I am so sorry for the loss of your John.
Please accept my prayers for your family.; February 4, 2008 at 11:53 PM
hillgrandmom said...: Deanna sent me over. My thoughts are with you. I'm sure God is right there beside you. Will pray for you and your family.; February 5, 2008 at 12:38 AM
Mimi said...: Hello Nita,
I came over to visit you from Deena's Blog and show your that we hurt with those who hurt...
I am so very sorry for your loss...I pray for God to strengthen you as you take care of all the things that need to be taken care of during this terrible time of great loss to you and your children...
God will work things out for you...
Be Encouraged,
Mimi; February 5, 2008 at 3:02 AM
Anonymous said...: Eternal rest and peace grant unto him and may you and your family be given peace.

I am sorry for your great loss.

Barbara; February 5, 2008 at 4:44 AM
Susan P. said...: My heart, love, and prayers go out to you and your precious family.; February 5, 2008 at 4:45 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita, God bless you and your family. Let everyone love you through your heartache.; February 5, 2008 at 5:01 AM
Thistlebrooms said...: Nita...
You will be in my prayers...
I wish you & your family Peace...
We are truly sorry for your loss...
Godspeed...Marilyn; February 5, 2008 at 5:10 AM
Anonymous said...: Nina just to say my deepest condolences on your loss.; February 5, 2008 at 5:47 AM
nitebyrd said...: My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

Blessed Be.; February 5, 2008 at 5:48 AM
Colleen - the AmAzINg Mrs. B said...: There are no words to make this better. My heart is with you and your famly. My prayers are that you will find comfort and love in each other to carry you through this. You are in my prayers.
Colleen; February 5, 2008 at 6:02 AM
FourSistersInACottage said...: My Dear Sweet Nita,
Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time in your life. No words can take your pain away and I can't even imagine how your heart is breaking.
Hugs and Love to you My Midwestern Friend.
Amy (Mom to the Four Sisters); February 5, 2008 at 6:26 AM
LK said...: I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You don't know me, but you and yours are on my prayer list. Know that God is with you at this very moment.; February 5, 2008 at 6:27 AM
Anonymous said...: you and your family are in my thought s nita. i can not believe what you have wrote. i am so sad by your words, and utterly sorry, that your john is away.

all i can send you this far is a big warm hug, love...

delila; February 5, 2008 at 6:35 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita:

Thinking of you and praying that your health has improved. I can't imagine going through this while ill.

Love & prayers,
Kathy (NL); February 5, 2008 at 6:45 AM
Lennea said...: I too, lost my husband way too soon. My prayers go up for your family. May God bless you with His peace in your time of grief.
Lennea; February 5, 2008 at 7:02 AM
Fran S said...: I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.; February 5, 2008 at 7:04 AM
Joan said...: Dear Nita,

I came straight from 'Pixie's blog and want to say how deeply sorry I am for the loss of your life mate and best friend.
We never can comprehend something of this magnitude, but I too, pray that God gives you deep peace, helps to heal your broken heart, and lets you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that He has John wrapped in His loving arms where He will stay safely until the day you two are together again.

I will lift you and your family up in prayer today...
I am so, so sorry.

xoxo
joan; February 5, 2008 at 7:20 AM
Anonymous said...: So sorry for your loss, many, many thoughts are with you and your family.; February 5, 2008 at 7:30 AM
Dorothy said...: Dear Nita,

I am here for the first time from Deena's blog. I am so very sorry for your loss. ((((((HUGS))))))))

I want you to know that I am praying for you and your family.
I will be back to visit again soon.
Your blog is one of the best I've ever visited.; February 5, 2008 at 7:37 AM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita,

I have never been to your blog before and have read about your loss. I am so so sorry Nita. May God wrap his loving arms around you and bring you a comfort like no other.

LeAnn; February 5, 2008 at 7:38 AM
Laurie in Ca. said...: Stopping by this morning to let you know my prayers are many for you and your family. Asking God to hold your heart extra tight during this time that hurts beyond words. He loves you so much Nita and He shares your pain.
May He be your comfort.

Love, Laurie in Ca.; February 5, 2008 at 7:40 AM
Anonymous said...: I am sure your heart is broken and the pain you feel immense know htat my thoughts and prayers are with you - somewhere keep in the back of your mind that you will not always feel like this and that you will survive it even if it doesn't feel like it today - I prayer for strength and peace for you ~ Gina; February 5, 2008 at 7:48 AM
caroline : my pocket said...: I was shocked to hear the news and I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength and peace to cry. You are not alone, though times are dark. Much love, Caroline; February 5, 2008 at 7:55 AM
Kim said...: Hi Nita,
I came from Maija's blog.
I was so touched by what you wrote that I wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers on thoughts!; February 5, 2008 at 8:01 AM
Katie said...: Hello Nita, I am Shelleys mom.
we are so sorry to hear of your loss., MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY, GIVE YOU MUCH LOVE AND COMFORT, DURING YOU TIME OF SORROW. AND IN THE FUTURE.
BLESSINGS KATIE; February 5, 2008 at 8:02 AM
Adrienne said...: Tina - My prayers are going to the Lord for you and your family. May you feel held in His arms - tightly - as you walk through these days. I am so sorry for your loss. ~Adrienne~; February 5, 2008 at 8:11 AM
Kathi said...: I am so sorry to hear about your great loss of your dear husband. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Kathi; February 5, 2008 at 8:22 AM
The Urban Chic said...: Nita, I heard the news from Deena and I am so very sorry for your loss. Just know that John is no longer suffering, which isn't all that comforting (I know from experience) but all the blog ladies that I have met are so wonderful and it has gotten me through some rough times. May God wrap you in His comforting arms through out your time of sorrow. Blessings to you and your family. Hugs, Pat; February 5, 2008 at 9:07 AM
Anonymous said...: I am so sorry you lost your dear husband and best friend
I don't know you but I know what it is like to lose someone you love so so much
Prayers for you.; February 5, 2008 at 10:07 AM
Anonymous said...: I came from another blog.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.; February 5, 2008 at 10:08 AM
Christine Boles said...: Nita, I'm so sorry~ I know how this feels, know the tender blessing built into the curse of watching a beloved husband die.
May you and I eventually have sunnier things in common, in our lives...
But for now, grieve~; February 5, 2008 at 10:48 AM
Anonymous said...: I am so sorry for your loss.

I can't even imagine what you are feeling right now. I am leaving some hugs and prayers here for you. What a blessing that you have had such a wonderful man in your life.; February 5, 2008 at 10:55 AM
BugnLVoe said...: God bless you and keep you as you mourn for John, your husband and best friend.

You have so many blog buddies out there whos hearts are aching for you.

XOXO; February 5, 2008 at 11:46 AM
Anonymous said...: Dearest Nita, this is my first visit to your blog, and I am SO SORRY for your loss. Please know we are praying for y'all! Please keep us abreast of your needs, 'kay? (((((HUGS))))) sandi; February 5, 2008 at 1:31 PM
Joyce said...: Nita,
I give you my most heartfelt sympathy. I can see that this was a horrible shock to all of you. I have never been to your blogsite (or knew it existed) until today upon reading about your news on Deena's site. I will be praying for ALL of you. I will be counting on prayers to lift you up and give you peace and wisdom and courage in the days and weeks ahead.
I'm so sorry.
Be blessed,
Joyce M.; February 5, 2008 at 2:35 PM
forcryeye said...: I am keeping you in my prayers.; February 5, 2008 at 3:08 PM
a Pocket Angel said...: Dear Nita, How my heart goes out to you at the passing of your dear husband John. You, John and your precious children will be in my thoughts and prayers. I know how devastated you are.
I wish I had words to comfort you but I know there is none.
God bless you and your family...
~Mary~; February 5, 2008 at 3:09 PM
Kimmie said...: Dear Nita and family;

May God hold you in his arms, may you find comfort during this time of mourning your dear husband. There are no words that can be spoken that will ease your sorrow, unless they are God's Words and certainly I will pray that He speaks them clearly to your mind, body, soul and spirit.

Praying for you
Kimmie; February 5, 2008 at 3:26 PM
Anonymous said...: Dear Nita,

I see you are surrounded by God's love here, in a sense gathered in His arms. I pray you might find His comfort in this sad and painful time for you and your family.
"The Lord is near to the broken-hearted, And saves those who are crushed in spirit. Ps.34:18

You are loved.; February 5, 2008 at 3:43 PM
Anonymous said...: Bless you, Nita. There is nothing else to say.; February 5, 2008 at 3:51 PM
Bethany said...: Nita.....I am soo sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to express my grief for you and your family. Oh dear girl, I hold you in my heart and I'm crying as I write this....I am just so sorry but know he is safe with the Lord resting without pain or fear in the arms of Christ. Please please let me know if you need anyhting....I will be here sending you love xxxooo; February 5, 2008 at 4:44 PM
Anonymous said...: My thoughts and prayers are with you during this terrible time. May God bring you strength and peace during this time. God bless you!

Kristina; February 5, 2008 at 4:55 PM
colleen said...: Nita:

I was so shocked to hear the news at work yesterday. I send my most sincere condolences and prayers. John was one of my favorite patients in rehab. I will never forget him.; February 5, 2008 at 5:14 PM
kathyann said...: Hi Nita ,
I just came over from Deena's to say how sorry we are for your loss! Our thoughts and our prayers are with you and your famiy at this sad time!God Bless,love from Kathyann and the girls; February 5, 2008 at 6:06 PM
Anonymous said...: I happened upon your blog from your friends blog and was so sad for your loss. I lost my mother 24 years ago on the 4th of Feb. I pray your John and my mother Gloria are together in Heaven with our Lord. Carefree and free of pain... May you be comforted by your Faith and the lovely people who have sent you love. Peg; February 5, 2008 at 6:50 PM
altermyworld said...: WOW I am so sorry this has happened. Please take care, i will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Ang; February 5, 2008 at 7:03 PM
Angie(quillysilly) said...: Nita,

I have come via Deena at Tattered Works of Whimy/Can I Be Pretty in Pink to just leave my thoughts. In what must be an incredibly hard time right now, I am praying for you and your family to have strength for the days to come and that the happy memories of times past will dull the sharp memories of the next few days. Take care...
Angie; February 5, 2008 at 7:31 PM
Diane Fay (littlealma) said...: Dear Nita,

Hugs to you - and along with many other blogger friends, I will remember you in our prayers! I hope that you are feeling God's arms upholding you and keeping you close!

Love - Diane; February 5, 2008 at 8:00 PM
karri said...: this is the first time i am here at your blog. i am so sorry for your loss. i know from lossing my wonderful Daddy at a young age that life will never be the same after such a loss. allow God to hold you, He will never leave you. you and your family are in my prayers,
karri; February 5, 2008 at 9:30 PM
Anonymous said...: Nita...I don't know you and you don't know me but I found you through Deena and I just wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear about your John. I cannot imagine how sad you and your children are but I do know that God will give you the grace to get through this tough time. He never give us more than we can bear. I looks like you have many dear friends who love you so lean on them in this time. They are here for you. Bless you and your family.
In Christ-Erika; February 5, 2008 at 10:25 PM
zuzu said...: nita -^*^-

Know that your friends are all around you in this hour of grief & devastating sadness ... Friends from all corners of the globe surround you with wings to hold you close.

There are no words.
But we are always here ... thinking of you.
--zU; February 6, 2008 at 3:08 AM
Saguaro Chick said...: Dear Nita,
My heart is breaking for you and I am sending hugs to comfort you. Sorry, I know you do not know me but I am feeling your pain so very deeply. I lost my husband unexpectely, leaving me and my two little boys to try and figure it all out. You are deep in my thoughts, I know what a difficult road you are on right now. It looks like you have a lot of people who care about you, so many lovely comments. How very beautiful that John waited for you, I am speechless. A precious moment for always.; February 6, 2008 at 4:45 AM
Anonymous said...: Nita, I am so sorry for your loss. May you and your family find comfort and peace in the loving arms of God.

Blessings,
Pam; February 6, 2008 at 5:32 AM
Anonymous said...: This is my first time to your blog and my heart just broke when I read your post. I know you and your family must be devastated but please remember that God is there. He told the sun where to stop and he showed the moon where to hide til evening. Your redeemer lives. If you can't pray let us pray for you but remember that God is there and let him carry you. Rely on HIS strength, HIS peace, HIS grace and HIS mercy. I will pray for you and your family. You have a tough road ahead of you but with God all things are possible. I know this for a fact.
Your sister in Christ
Diane; February 6, 2008 at 7:38 AM
Anonymous said...: I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are feeling right now. This is my first time here and I just wanted to let you know that you are being prayed for. May God give you His peace. Praying for you and your family.
Ruth; February 6, 2008 at 7:44 AM
Renmeleon said...: I happened on this by chance through Deena Warner's blog. Nita, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. You have my family's heartfelt thoughts and prayers. I know loss and know that there are no words right now that can really comfort but I wish you and your children love and support. Know that you are not alone. :::sends you loving hugs:::; February 6, 2008 at 7:59 AM
Anonymous said...: I will pray for you and your family. x; February 6, 2008 at 8:11 AM
TR Ryan said...: You are much beloved and you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. Your blog world is here for you. Warm hugs. TR; February 6, 2008 at 9:14 AM
Sally L. Smith said...: Oh, Nita. My soul cries out for you. May God's peace wash you and your children. I pray that God will give you all the strength you need for the next few days. I'm a friend of Deena (Sweet Annee). We live a 5 min. drive from each other.
Sally; February 6, 2008 at 9:37 AM
Anonymous said...: Found you thru Deena's blog. Of course, so sorry to hear about your John. I spent time last night reading your past 5 months worth of blogging and I am humbled. Keep up your growth and discovery. I know God will continue to bless and keep you safe. Also to give you and Elizabeth comfort and peace. I will be praying for your family.; February 6, 2008 at 10:50 AM
Olivia said...: Prayers for you and your family in this traumatic time. No words can express consolation, but still I send love, Olivia; February 6, 2008 at 11:19 AM
Glo said...: So sorry for your loss. May just knowing the Lord give you peace and comfort. May God bless you and your family. Your in our thoughts and prayers.; February 6, 2008 at 11:52 AM
Anonymous said...: Nita- May you be surrounded with love and prayers and I hope you find strength in knowing so many of us have thought and prayed for you. Keep what you cherish close to your heart but remember to share it also with those that you love, who also loved your John. His light will shine on through you and them. Celebrate the joy his life brought and grieve in whatever way you must. Many are keeping you close in their prayers.; February 6, 2008 at 12:12 PM
Autumn Storm said...: Nita, my most heartfelt condolences to you and your children and family. My thoughts are with you.; February 6, 2008 at 12:21 PM
Mom said...: I am so sorry to hear of your loss, your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.; February 6, 2008 at 12:41 PM
Anonymous said...: Nita,
I am in shock! Oh Nita I don't know what to say to you. My prayers are with you and your family! Hugs to all. I am just in shock!!!!
I don't know what to say John was a wonderful man and his memory will remain in my heart. I have been busy gathering some JD pics to send to him to show him our collection as I said I would do in our Christmas card to the both of you. Nita I want you to re,e,ber that although John has passed on he is still with you always in your heart. You can talk to him when ever you want. And if you listen carefully you will always hear his reply. Although not in person the memory of what John would reply to you will always come to you. I found this a very good way to get through the really hard times such as this. Close your eyes and think of what John would say to you at this time. He would say Nita I love you very much and I will always be with you. Although we can't be together right now one day we will be together again so for now go forward and live your life take care of the kids and let the kids take care of you. God is with you and hears your prayers. Everything happens for a reason although we the ones left behind are never sure what the reason is. Look to God for comfort at this time and keep your friends and family close to help you though these times. Love to you Nita. Your friend Lori from Winnipeg Manitoba lorihere_now@hotmail.com; February 6, 2008 at 1:11 PM
Susan said...: Nita, so sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through. You are in our prayers. I pray for God to give you and your family strength during this trying time.
Susan (A Walk In The Park); February 6, 2008 at 1:34 PM
Becky K. said...: Nita,
I am so sorry!
I'll be praying for God's love and peace to surround you.
I came over from a link from Deena's Blog. I'll be taking some time to read your story.
My sympathies!
Becky K.; February 6, 2008 at 2:09 PM
jAMiE said...: I am here by way of Deena..i just wanted to stop by and say i am so sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family at this very painful time.

Take care and be strong.; February 6, 2008 at 2:27 PM
Anonymous said...: Thinking of you, Nita and wishing you strength, comfort & peace in God's blessings.

hugs,
kathy (NL); February 6, 2008 at 3:14 PM
Ang said...: I am so sorry to hear this! You are an amazing woman with amazing faith! I will be praying for you and your family!; February 6, 2008 at 3:27 PM
Dad 2 eight said...: Nita;
May Jesus strengthen you and your family at this time. God bless.; February 6, 2008 at 5:11 PM
Kim Kwan said...: Many blessings to you and your family.
I don't "know" you (I am a pal of Maija's), but I feel for you more than you can know. I am sending you prayers of support and strenght, and the power to recall all the GOOD STUFF! I am envisioning you with a large circle of love and light surrpounding you, with your dearest, sweet angel husband guiding you and comforting you through this rough time. May you and your children find some peace... much love!; February 6, 2008 at 6:09 PM
Robin said...: Nita,
I'm thinking of you daily and want you to know that.
I know your faith will get you through this. Please email me if there is anything at all I can do for you. I'm so so sorry for your loss
Big huge hugs from me to you.....; February 6, 2008 at 7:06 PM
Anonymous said...: Nita, I just hopped over from Maija's blog. I am so very, very sorry to about John. I'm sending my thoughts, prayers and many hugs your way. May God be with you and your family during this time, and give you comfort and peace. xoxo; February 6, 2008 at 7:43 PM