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Sunday, February 17, 2008

Love Is the Answer...

For so long I have been a broken person. I had things happen to me as a child that effected my whole life. But I have had people reach out to me in love, and that has helped to heal my wounds. John was the greatest healer of wounds. He gave me something I had never had before. Someone who truly listened to me when I talked. That is the single most important thing you can have in this life, someone who listens, truly listens.



I am reaching out to you today to say, "Love is the Answer." It is hard to love others when they have hurt us. But I have realized something, We can love them and forgive them, but we don't have to be around them. Especially if they continue with their destructive behavior.



If they appear to have changed, and you give them another chance and they hurt you again, you may have to distance yourself.

But forgive, for if we forgive we are released from the prison that holds us captive. And, we don't have to be a door mat to be forgiving and loving.



Today's song, Love is the Answer
1st video, 1st clip

23 comments:

Just Joni said...

I can hear God speaking directly through you today Nita...your words are wise and I am so happy to see you "reaching out"...surely a sign of good things to come.

Joni

red tin heart said...

Joni: Thank you dear heart. I am trying to reach out. love nita

shabby chic said...

That is so true nita ,and it is no good not to forgive.As it does mean that we are holding on to it still.If we dont forgive it does mean we havent moved on from whatever it was causing us to hold on to not forgiving
hope that makes sense, the way I have written it
You take care
X Dominique

Classic Charm said...

Well said Nita. You are a wise soul. Thanks for your words, they are touching.
Hugs,
Rose

Annette said...

Nita, I came across your blog from Joni, shes been my friend since the 3 grade, your blog makes me think about so much, love, life, hope, and strength. I lost my Dad 18 years ago he was 59, I will difentley keep you and your daughter in my prayer's, you will see him again, parting from this world is only for a short time. God bless...Annette

Dena ~ swaddlecottage said...

Sweet Nita,

You are such a wise woman and I just adore you. Sending hugs and prayers.

Dena

A bird in the hand said...

You are so right. Forgiving doesn't mean we approve of being hurt; it means acknowledging what happened and letting go. Clinging onto our wounds, especially the childhood ones, does us no good. It's difficult because childhood is what forms us as adults and we have to be strong and move beyond that. With love. xoxoxo

red tin heart said...

Dominique: You make perfect sense. love nita

red tin heart said...

Rose: Thank you.. xoxo nita

Annette: That is so neat that you have been friends that long. Thank you for your kind words. xoxo nita


Dena: I adore you to my friend. love nita

red tin heart said...

Colette: It is strange how we are shaped by youth, but learn as adults how to reshape ourselves. How to be new people. love nita

Donna said...

Sometimes all we need is someone to listen...really listen. Your words speak volumes, sweetheart...lots of love to you Baby...

Laurie said...

I love your heart here Nita and know where you are coming from with this post. To forgive and to love are a choice, freeing up our spirit of the chains that would pull us back. I love you friend and pray for you each day.

Hugs and Blessings,
Laurie in Ca.

red tin heart said...

Donna: I am sending love your way too.. Thank you. Love nita

red tin heart said...

Laurie: I am glad you see my heart here. Love nita

Thrifty Miss Priss said...

Nita, This reminded me of my "grudge" I had with my father. You are so right...it is like a prison. Once I released the grudge and forgave him it truly was a breath of fresh air.

red tin heart said...

Robin: So true, it is like a prison. Hope you had a good day. love nita

My Treasure Barn said...

It is so nice to have someone really listen to you. I personally have problems with most of my friends that way. They want to talk but don't want to really listen.

I have been blessed with you as a friend that does listen. Thanks for that.

Forgiveness is so important. I have had some issues with my brother that I thought I could not forgive but I did and I feel a peace now that I didn't before.

You are such a wise women and I thank you. You amaze me with the way you reach out to others.

Love You my friend
hugs
Patti

SweetAnnee said...

Forgiveness is for YOU
it sets us free!!

I am thinking of you..
fondly, Deena

Nonnie said...

wonderful words, nita.....forgiveness sets us free.....and we leave it in God's care..
you are so often in my thoughts and prayers,
kimberly

red tin heart said...

Patti: I pray God sends someone to be a great friend to you where you live, so you will have someone in person. That is important. It is hard to forgive, but I am working on it everyday.Hope you have a great week. love nita

red tin heart said...

Deena: I am thinking and praying for you. love nita

Kimberly: Thank you. I need prayers.. so happy I have met you. love nita

Mimi said...

Nita,
this was a post that I think we all needed to read...I am very bad at holding a grudge..I can drag up a hurt that happened 30 years ago and remind someone of what they did to hurt my feelings..
I am really working on loving the people who have hurt me...
thank you so much for this post...
{{hugs}}
Mimi
P.S.
How is Elizabeth doing...I continue to pray for you both every day!!!

red tin heart said...

Mimi: It was a post I needed too. I can hold a grudge myself, but I really do not want to. love nita

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